I refuse to be trapped by this rhetorical question.

When you think of the word “successful,” who’s the first person that comes to mind and why?

What does it mean to be successful? In a world where social media flaunts luxury cars, corner offices, and jet-setting lifestyles, it’s tempting to believe that success is defined by material wealth, power, and fame. But is that all there is? Can the essence of a meaningful life really be reduced to accolades and riches, or is success something deeper? True success transcends superficial accomplishments—it lies in personal fulfillment, the impact we have on others, and the legacy we leave behind.

First, let’s examine the pursuit of wealth. Money undeniably provides comfort and opens doors to experiences that would otherwise be unavailable. Yet, countless stories of wealthy but unhappy individuals prove that financial success alone is hollow. Why do billionaires suffer from anxiety? Why do celebrities with global fame struggle with loneliness? The answer is simple: possessions cannot nurture the soul. As soon as we achieve one financial goal, a new, more ambitious one emerges. The pursuit becomes endless, leaving us wondering if we are chasing shadows rather than meaning.

Moreover, social recognition—the applause of others—offers a fleeting sense of accomplishment. Society teaches us that prestige, whether in the form of job titles, awards, or social standing, is synonymous with success. But public validation is a fickle thing. What happens when the applause fades? A title on a business card may impress strangers, but it cannot bring lasting peace or self-worth. Success driven by external validation leaves one vulnerable to the shifting opinions of the crowd.

In contrast, true success resides in personal fulfillment. What brings a sense of joy, purpose, and belonging? For some, success is found in following their passions—even when society deems them unconventional. The artist whose work speaks from the heart, the teacher who inspires their students, and the parent raising compassionate children experience a success that cannot be measured in dollars or awards. Their fulfillment is rooted in doing what aligns with their values, not in chasing society’s definition of achievement.

Equally important is the impact we have on others. Success is not just about elevating ourselves but about lifting those around us. What legacy do we leave behind? What good have we done? In the end, it is the relationships we nurture and the kindness we show that define us. When people speak at a funeral, they rarely list the deceased’s net worth or job title. Instead, they recount stories of generosity, love, and the ways that person touched their lives.

True success also means having the courage to pursue our dreams, even when the path is difficult or unconventional. It is the resolve to keep going when challenges arise, to find meaning in our efforts, and to remain faithful to our values. Success is not an endpoint; it is a process—a journey shaped by resilience and integrity.

Ultimately, the true measure of success is deeply personal. It is not defined by the accumulation of wealth, the recognition of others, or the pursuit of power. Rather, it lies in living authentically, making a difference in the lives of others, and finding joy in the things that matter most. Success is not about what we have—it is about who we become. The question, then, is not whether we appear successful in the eyes of others, but whether we feel successful in the depths of our soul.